A New Take on the Good Girls & Bad Boys Theory

While I was reading the advice column in Elle magazine, the columnist gave the best explanation I've heard ever about why seemingly good girls like bad boys.

The astute woman told a perturbed good guy who wrote in on the subject that she believed we (yes, I'm including myself in this generalization) like bad boys because we are bad ourselves. As people say we are attracted to people who are like us, therefore there is some quality about you that you are attracted to in the other person.

For me, the one quality I like in particular is when a guy says that he isn't looking for a relationship or that he is busy. Because I'm an extremely busy person by nature and not necessarily out of choice, I like someone who would also understand when I only have 5 hours tops to share out of an entire week. BUT when I choose to spend time with that person, I would hope they knows that means a lot that I chose to use my free hours with them. On the other hand, I also expect them to understand when I ignore their calls or texts just because I don't feel like dealing with them at the time. As the Bible has showed me more than once, "you reap, what you sow."

I've already harped on how some of these guys misunderstand my definition of not looking for a relationship as the new version of "I like to have a good time." So in the future I will once again use the lesson I learned from my eighth grade English teacher "Specific is Terrific."

And be specific in any relationship founding stages about what I want, expect and can give in a relationship. And maybe those bad boys won't be so bad after all.