I have a friend who told me she goes on multiple dates a day with guys she doesn't like. She said these guys even buy her things just "because."
I had trouble believing this information and I'm not entirely sure why, but I think I figured it out a few weeks ago. It has everything to do with my time and who I believe or deem worthy of having it.
I'm a single woman, who works for herself, works out at least two hours a day and currently needs to study for a test at least two hours a day, and let's not forget I like to get 8 hours of sleep as often as possible. So that is at least 20 hours of my day which means I only have four left. Not much time at all so I like to spend it wisely.
The last time I went to a mall was on a vacation the first week in October- we are now in the last week in November. I hadn't seen a movie since early summer-I believe Wolverine....
Because I spend a lot of time in the gym, I see several people regularly. This includes guys. And according to my trainer, a female who works out a lot is very attractive to men who do the same.
Recently I was approached by a guy who asked me if I'd like to hang out some time. Once again, I'm still on the mission to find a new male best friend, so I told him I'd think about it. I feel this opportunity will keep me from every considering any offer from a guy at the gym again. Here's all the badlights:
1. He has two gold teeth- I love my cousins with gold teeth, but I'd like them to see just like he should that gold teeth are NEVER appropriate.
2. As he asked for my number he flipped open his phone and there is a picture of a woman with large breasts...
3. He starts to come up and try to hold a long conversation whenever we are in the gym at the same time. I like to stay focused and usually try to get in and out of the gym as fast as I can.
4. In the first and only phone conversation we have he admits that he cheats on his driver's log books. As the daughter of parents with an honest trucking company-this doesn't sit well.
5. He says he doesn't go to church a lot... And tries to make me seem rude by my saying this is an issue FOR ME!
6. He loiters in the pool area as i do my laps - I can actually see him standing in the steam room staring at me. WEIRDO!!
7. His small talk is intellectually annoying. Yes, I go to the gym, but I've also told you I am studying for a test for grad school and yet all you really want to know about me is how many days a week I go to the gym??? Or how tired I was after spin class?
8. This was the kicker: The one time I decided to go out in public, he shows up with two big gold hoop earrings in each ear (possibly two total earrings in each ear but I couldn't bring myself to look) and wears sunglasses in the movie theatre.
REALLY BRUH? You are that cool? Right... I can't tell you how embarrassed I was for him- a 30-year old with gold teeth and big gold hoop earrings, much less myself for being seen in public with him. He insisted beforehand that he would pay for my movie ticket and after his wardrobe malfunctions, I decided I would let him. Because no way was I going to pay my own way to be seen with someone who looked like he did.
So the two hours of my time at the movie theatre with him was not at all equal to the $5.50 matinee price of my movie ticket but I did learn a lot from the experience. AND if any of the guys who approaches my friend are like that, I can see why she'd let them pay, but I can't say I'd continue to spend time with them if I don't like them.
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