Five things guys should do to attract women

I'm not speaking for all women when I write this post but over the course of my week in Trinidad and Tobago I was approached by several men-all of who took different approaches but the really good ones made me commit to several minutes of talk time at the least if they did one or some of the things I'll mention below. After talking to my friend who was with me, I decided this was a good starter list of what men could do to make them more attractive to women.

 1. Be Chivalrous - I don't believe chivalry is dead and some of the guys I've met recently don't either. I've had multiple doors opened, had things carried for me (including my beach chair) and my favorite was being redirected to the other side of the sidewalk by my male companion so that if oncoming traffic took a wrong turn, I'd be protected (in theory) by him. In case the women don't know what you're doing, it's good for the man to explain it to the woman. It may have been a lie, but the men who have done it for me have stated their parents would be really disappointed if they saw him not doing what he'd been taught as a boy. Again, could be a lie but I like the story and thus I will always feel a warm tug at my heart if I guy does this for me.

 2. Make her smile/laugh - Any guy who can come up with something witty and make the girl smile has a chance. Really, it's the truth.

 3. State your purpose - While it's true you run the risk of getting shot down, you honestly knew that before you approached her. Better to state your purpose (I'd like to go out on a date, I'd like to buy you a drink, etc) and see what happens than kill time, sitting, talking and never following through leaving a question mark on what could happen between the person you're interested in. In the last few weeks I've had guys be very direct about their intentions to spend time with me and I've appreciated their honesty and been able to determine whether to give them my time or not.

 4. Call - I've addressed how much I hate the texting dynamic of relationships before but even more so now I believe it's so important for a guy to call a woman once he gets her number. As a guy told me a few weeks ago - if a guy doesn't pick up the phone to call the first time after he meets a woman, you can automatically rule him out (note- he did say the guy was allowed to text if he met a woman that night and wanted to make sure she made it home safe but the next communication should be a call.)

 5. BE HONEST- I can't emphasize this enough. Women have great intuition and so if you want to spin lies, you shouldn't approach the woman. "Just Go With It" is a movie. There is no one in your real life who should be willing to help you keep up with small or elaborate lies to be in a relationship. I had a guy tell me within the first few hours of meeting him how he was divorced, had a kid and a lot of other relationship baggage. While it was somewhat concerning he revealed so much immediately, I was glad he put his cards on the table to help me decide whether I was interested.

So, those are my thoughts on what men can do to attract the women they are attracted to. I'd love to hear if you have any additional thoughts or suggestions to the list.