Does not inspire confidence...

In grad school for every course we took we had to evaluate the course at the end of the term. One of the questions required us to rate on a scale of 1 to 5 the ability to which the professor inspired confidence in our individual abilities to understand the subject based on their teaching ability. That question continues to stick in my mind as a suitor, we'll call "youngin" continues to hit on me while being involved with his girlfriend.

 As I learned in February he began dating her in November, shortly before my relationship collapsed. He informed me that had he known then, he would have ended things but that now he was "in it." I know. Very romantic. Despite his admission, he still texts every Monday (unless I can get a break by saying something that makes him come to his senses for a few weeks) to flirt or ask me if we can "cuddle." My answer never changes: NO! And I tell him that he should be more concerned with his girlfriend. I've also pleaded with him not to break her heart. I don't know if it's possible.

 In some of our exchanges, he's asked what's wrong with cuddling even though he has a significant other. I told him immediately, your desire to spend time cuddling with me when you have a girlfriend does not inspire confidence that you a) really like me enough to break up with her and see how things go with me and b) that you would be faithful to me if we were together. As a result, the answer remains no. I went so far as to tell him that if he and she never broke up at a time when I was single then that meant he and I were not meant to be and that I was okay with that.

 A few weeks ago the night of the fight, he texted to see where I was going to watch the fight. When I informed him I had a migraine that I was going home to take care of, he offered to come over and sit with me. I told him with as much patience as possible that I couldn't deal with his flirting that night with the girlfriend still in the picture. He said she wasn't. Despite how tempting it was to have someone take care of me, I still declined. That was Saturday night. When I saw him three days later on Tuesday, they were back together. Apparently, they broke up for a short time.

 I told him it might be in his best interest to really think about if this was the person he wanted to spend his spare time with since he seems to be in so much conflict all the time. I suggested he think about that and make the decision best for him and not bring anyone else in his drama until then. My phone has been quiet but then again, tomorrow is Monday.