When it comes to dating and relationships I learned today (again) that age does not equal wisdom on how to navigate the murky waters.
While I wouldn't characterize the person I spoke with this morning as a cougar, she is treading on thin ice with a relationship that could make her be perceived as one.
Needless to say she was astonished when I told her there was no way that I would date someone old enough to be my father or that I'd do the reverse either. I tried to sugarcoat it by saying I've always prayed for direction and God hasn't led me to date a man my father's age when the opportunities arose in the past.
Not surprisingly, because she's happy with her situation I'm pretty sure based on her pratically school-girl manner of describing the guy (who is my age!!!) and his flirting techniques, she is not going to end their relationship-her word not mine- any time soon.
*sigh* all the good ones are married, gay or with an older woman it seems...
Wednesday
Tuesday
Old Dog, same tricks
This weeekend an old friend -who may have received some entryspace last July when he deserted me as my wedding escort- came to town. I agreed to show him around because he offered me a ticket to the NCAA regional basketball game, and second because his original plan for Saturday was to drive 6 hours to view the Alamo in San Antonio. Now the nice person inside of me saw what a complete let-down and wasre od time that would have been for him so I picked him up and showed him the sights as well as took him to my favorite restaurant.
We managed through the weekend without incident but with me noticing more than ever how annoyingly clueless he was about everything. This includes the fact that every time he hugged me I turned to the side or was a little squeamish or awkward after he gave me a kiss on the cheek to not knowing the crossstreets for his hotel or where he parked at the Reliant Center.
As an official observer of life I've just determined he is content with letting life happen to him and not being proactive. I'd have to say its one of my biggest pet peeves and I definitely do not plan on letting him have any part of my future at all.
We managed through the weekend without incident but with me noticing more than ever how annoyingly clueless he was about everything. This includes the fact that every time he hugged me I turned to the side or was a little squeamish or awkward after he gave me a kiss on the cheek to not knowing the crossstreets for his hotel or where he parked at the Reliant Center.
As an official observer of life I've just determined he is content with letting life happen to him and not being proactive. I'd have to say its one of my biggest pet peeves and I definitely do not plan on letting him have any part of my future at all.
April dating goal
If things go according to plan I just may fulfill my April dating goal on April 1. I'm hoping this isn't an April Fool's joke either!!! The guy is a fellow Urban Leaguer whom I met two months ago. Friday we both left at the same time and he escorted me to Macy's -it was closed-- and then to my car. I think like most guys his curiosity is peaked by my seeming normalness but still single disposition nonetheless.
There are two minor red flags that I see at the moment-his less-than-consistent attendance at church and his tendency to bring up his ranch (as in place with animals...) in almost every conversation. I kid you not its so bad I almost want to ask him if he has a ranch to see his reaction.
But on the bright side if I get this out of the way I have 29 more days to line up my next date for May...
There are two minor red flags that I see at the moment-his less-than-consistent attendance at church and his tendency to bring up his ranch (as in place with animals...) in almost every conversation. I kid you not its so bad I almost want to ask him if he has a ranch to see his reaction.
But on the bright side if I get this out of the way I have 29 more days to line up my next date for May...
Boywatch
Today my part-time job has placed me right smack dab in the middle of college life by sitting a student center. As a result, I've been able to divert my attention to all the college co-eds mostly the men however since looking at the females makes me frown as my eyes try to overlook their chosen outfits.
I spotted one fine specimen this morning and in response to recent reader requests I attempted to snap a picture of him. I could only get a side profile with my camera phine and my next attempt was foiled by Valentine's presence.
As I attempted to snap the picture the student noticed that I was eyeing him and began to stare back. Valentine thankfully was oblivious to everything that was occuring except that I had a huge grin on my face but I refused to let him in on the inside joke. Let's hope cutiepie doesn't return anymore today or next Tuesday or else I will have some explaining to do.
I spotted one fine specimen this morning and in response to recent reader requests I attempted to snap a picture of him. I could only get a side profile with my camera phine and my next attempt was foiled by Valentine's presence.
As I attempted to snap the picture the student noticed that I was eyeing him and began to stare back. Valentine thankfully was oblivious to everything that was occuring except that I had a huge grin on my face but I refused to let him in on the inside joke. Let's hope cutiepie doesn't return anymore today or next Tuesday or else I will have some explaining to do.
Wednesday
A word from the Lord???
Yesterday I did some self-reflecting and realized I brought misery on myself for trying to read more into my relationship with Valentine. Despite what other people thought and said, I was the only witness to our one-on-one conversations-especially those about other women coming on to him and how he wasn't interested in being anything other than their friends.
Recently I've prayed for God to show me whether or not this was indeed the person for me and I've learned and seen some interesting things about Valentine that lowers the pedestal I'd originally (and somewhat knowingly) placed him on.
Despite this, I am still interested in being his friend so I remembered the advice of my pharmaceutical friend who said that every relationship needs nuturing or else it will die. So while I was tired last night when he called, I took the time to talk to him and encourage him because yet another woman came on to him and her conclusions and accusations about him were absolutely outlandish!!
And this morning as I waited in my car to enter work, I was reflecting on what his intentions were really-would he ever get back to calling me more than once a day-when my phone rang and it was him.
Whether that was a word or hint from God I'm not sure but I've come back to the realization that being his friend at this moment in time is just fine.
Recently I've prayed for God to show me whether or not this was indeed the person for me and I've learned and seen some interesting things about Valentine that lowers the pedestal I'd originally (and somewhat knowingly) placed him on.
Despite this, I am still interested in being his friend so I remembered the advice of my pharmaceutical friend who said that every relationship needs nuturing or else it will die. So while I was tired last night when he called, I took the time to talk to him and encourage him because yet another woman came on to him and her conclusions and accusations about him were absolutely outlandish!!
And this morning as I waited in my car to enter work, I was reflecting on what his intentions were really-would he ever get back to calling me more than once a day-when my phone rang and it was him.
Whether that was a word or hint from God I'm not sure but I've come back to the realization that being his friend at this moment in time is just fine.
Sunday
Church Disclaimer
In lieu of recent events I feel the need to inform the public of the following disclaimer: I go to church to serve God.
This comes after being blamed or labeled as a golddigger by a guy who attempted to date me at church while I was merely being friendly and one of the reasons he left our congregation.
Also, my new part-time job invloves working at a church 7 days a week and I've been asked several non-essential questions by older, unattractive gentleman who smell fresh meat at the market, NO THANK YOU!!
Please, please let me worship, work and serve God in His temple without being harassed.
Thank you!
This comes after being blamed or labeled as a golddigger by a guy who attempted to date me at church while I was merely being friendly and one of the reasons he left our congregation.
Also, my new part-time job invloves working at a church 7 days a week and I've been asked several non-essential questions by older, unattractive gentleman who smell fresh meat at the market, NO THANK YOU!!
Please, please let me worship, work and serve God in His temple without being harassed.
Thank you!
Spontaneity works
Friday night I was driving home when I happened to pass by Valentine's job and saw he was closing up. I parked the car and waited on him to lock the door.
As he approached his car he realized just who was parked next to him and a smile spread across his face. I got out of my car and he gave me the best hug I've had in a while.
It was a tight squeeze and full-facing and absolutely nothing was improper about it, it was just spontaneous and I could feel the great bond between us in it!
After we separated, I invited him over to my house to feed him and while he ate, I prepped for my next day and traded flirty text messages with March date. When I did sit down, we watched television and browsed through a Bible catalog- I kid you not.
So it wasn't until I was getting ready for bed that I realized how great that hug was and I sent him a text to say so. He didn't respond- I'm sure he was on the phone or it died, but I'm a firm believer that sometimes you just need to tell someone what actions mean the most.
And yesterday when I hugged March date, I reflected to the previous night's hug and suffice it to say Saturday's hug didn't win.
As he approached his car he realized just who was parked next to him and a smile spread across his face. I got out of my car and he gave me the best hug I've had in a while.
It was a tight squeeze and full-facing and absolutely nothing was improper about it, it was just spontaneous and I could feel the great bond between us in it!
After we separated, I invited him over to my house to feed him and while he ate, I prepped for my next day and traded flirty text messages with March date. When I did sit down, we watched television and browsed through a Bible catalog- I kid you not.
So it wasn't until I was getting ready for bed that I realized how great that hug was and I sent him a text to say so. He didn't respond- I'm sure he was on the phone or it died, but I'm a firm believer that sometimes you just need to tell someone what actions mean the most.
And yesterday when I hugged March date, I reflected to the previous night's hug and suffice it to say Saturday's hug didn't win.
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