I hope we have more than San Antonio

This weekend was an incredible weekend as far as my working on finding the right relationship. My new pseudo life coach imparted some great wisdom to me regarding relationships that I will share later, but one of the key points he told me was "the law of attraction."
As he tells it, you attract what you are attracting, or whatever vibes or qualities you put out into the universe to attract a significant other is exactly the vibes and qualities you will attract.

He encouraged me to do an honest self-assessment and decide whether the qualities I want in a mate are realistically something that I can attract. After doing that analysis, he says you must live your life in a manner that will put you in a position to meet that person.
He noted that if you don't like the persons whom you have encountered recently you should re-evaluate what vibes you have put out there to catch that person and then re-work your status. He also warned that the spring and summer months are the most popular or busy months when it comes to dating, so if you aren't attracting anything you also need to re-evaluate yourself.

This piece of advice has been ringing in my head so I've kept it top of my mind ever since I heard it. I did a self-evaluation and decided that my standards were in line (and in the past had been below my potential) with what I was capable of providing that person.

So, when it came to communicating with TT2, I decided that I would want someone who needed to take their time warming up to me and moving at a steady pace, but still recognized the importance of having a good conversation. Therefore, I've tolerated the text messages more so than I have in the past-because there may be something I need him to be patient with me about- but also nudged him to occassionally pick up the phone.

The life coach also warned that you must always present your best effort no matter what because you never know when your mate could be looking for you and the times you "take the day off" with your appearance or attitude, could be the very day he's looking for you.

In San Antonio, I kept this advice in mind as well by making sure I looked my best at all functions for our reunion. My friends were impressed with all of my hard work on my weight loss as well as my new natural hair style. I was rewarded with my efforts by catching the eye of a very handsome alumni.

When we met on Friday, he mentioned to his friend that I reminded me of one of their male friends which I thought was a backhand comment and never forgot it since he didn't explain himself. But by Saturday afternoon as our alumni group toured the campus, he questioned my posture and I revealed that this was an issue that my personal trainer picked with me all the time. He told me he was a chiropractor and so he naturally noticed these things but it was a gentle reminder of the "looking" aspect of the attraction rule and after that I began to walk straighter.

I noticed that he was the main person to open and hold the doors for the women in our group and when I asked a question to our tour guide regarding the artwork on display, he set off to find the answer-or what he thought was the answer -and reported back to me his conclusion.

By that time I'd popped a Blow Pop in my mouth, and he asked for one. Sadly, I could not produce another one as it was my last, but I did give him a mint which, he gladly accepted.

We walked together and decided that after the tour we would venture to the mall together. He and his riding buddy left before the tour was over so I gave him my number and by the time the tour was over I had a text asking me whether I wanted him to pick me up or just meet him at the mall.

Our group was scheduled to have dinner and cocktails late that night so I had my second outfit for the day in the car. Knowing that I would meet them immediately after our trip to the mall, I decided to change out of my message tee and put on the outfit that was more stylish, sophisticated and of course, accentuated my best features.

Not surprisngly, he immediately commented on my change of attire when we first reconnected.

We had a great time at the mall, bonding over our issues with finding shoes in our sizes (he wears a size 15) as well as our passion for Houston's hometown sports teams. When I mentioned that I was actually regretting my decision to drive to Houston that night after dinner, he graciously offered for me to stay on his sleeper sofa in his suite. When we separated for our separate dinner plans I told him I'd consider his offer even though I didn't want to go out to the place he and his friends were considering. He told me that wouldn't be a problem because he had his own rental car and so he could break away from the crowd if he wanted.

Throughout my dinner with friends we texted until I was able to get a friend to agree to break away from our pack to join him and his friends at the place they'd decided to attend. By that time everyone had decided that it was too risky for me to drive home that night because of the pouring rain. We had a great time at the club and it was there that I remembered just how reassuring a hand on the small of your back or a gentle but firm shoulder squeeze could feel. Not wanting to seem as though I joined the "couples" agenda for the weekend I played it cool for my friend whom I dragged out but still did what I could to subtly let him know I was interested.

When we got back that night as he carried my suitcase in, he draped his arm around me and we walked in together looking, if I do say so myself, like a real couple.

I only had 3.5 hours before I needed to hit the road so I changed into some comfortable clothes and removed all my makeup. Before going to bed we discussed what our relationship statuses were and whether he or I would have to explain my sleeping in his room. We both of course said no, and the mild flirting progressed again with him playing with my hair as we talked about our lives. During the talk as well as throughout the day, he gave details of his past and future, giving me a clear picture of what kind of guy he was. Admittedly there is a significant age between us that I wasn't aware of at first-as well as some other life encounters- but I can honestly say that overall those things seem insignificant because while it isn't the most ideal situation, I do like how we interact and complement each other and I have no doubt that the persons we encountered at the mall thought for sure we were already a couple. I also liked the ego boost he gave me when he disclosed that he noticed different things I did while we were together even if they were small, such as pouring out my Big Red soda and recycling my can during the tour.

When I left, I wrote a note on the hotel memo pad thanking him for his hospitality and telling him I had a great time. When he woke up, he sent me a text message to check on me as I was driving and I did the same until he also returned back to Houston safely that afternoon.

We haven't talked since yesterday and its darn near eating me up but I know that all my actions were pure and could indeed lead me to have more communication with him in the future because I left him wanting more. I mean can you really do anything crazy when you are having a discussion about where you go to church and you actually and the person actually knows your pastor??

Until he calls, we shall see but I have to tell you in spite of the recent success with TT2, I still want to see where both of these men will go in my life.

If nothing happens, I can always consider the experience as my April date even if our mall experience was casual and the club was a group outing. After all, group dates count right???