Ok, before I run out of exclamation marks, let me just get on with the story.
My name is ___ and I am addicted to Cheaters. Not really addicted but if I happen to be up and I know it's on, I'll watch it over the news, or whatever else is on-today it happens to be the Olympics.
So tonight, I was thinking about how great Joey Greco is. Sure, he's sarcastic during the confrontations, but he sometimes has a genuiness to him that makes you think he really cares about the people being cheated on.
So tonight, the first woman found her husband cheating and she took a hammer and broke a brand new 300 dollar watch, poured mustard all over him, threw his clothes out on the lawn and his TV. BTW it was Valentine's Day.
But that was nothing. This second woman confronted her cheating boyfriend in a parked car eating a burger. She asked where they went to eat as she grabbed his burger and threw it on the ground. Seconds later after the cheating girl admitted she was sending pictures of the boyfriend in her bed, the girlfriend says "what's this?" and reaches inside the car through the driver's window which was let down completely.
She does it so quickly and as she slides through the door she begins to punch the other woman. Her smoothness alone makes that the best episode ever. AND she later rips the shirt off the boyfriend because she bought it for him.
Part of me is afraid that watching this show will have a "reap what you sow" outcome because I take pleasure in it, but honestly, it's just the people who get even with those who have cheated that make me happy. :-)
Monday
I'm Famous
Ok, my guilty pleasure is to google myself because I love to see what's out there. Low and behold, I found this from that wedding earlier this year...
Ryan-Conger
Sarah Jane Conger, of Louisville, daughter of I.D. and Judy Conger, of Louisville, was united in marriage with Matthew James Ryan, of Brentwood, son of Michael Ryan, of Brentwood, and Jennifer Molyneaux, of Cedar Springs, Mich., at 6 p.m. May 23 at Lillie Belle's of Franklin. The Rev. Tom Gildemeister officiated.
Rebecca Conger, of Sharpsburg, Ga., was matron of honor and Jamie Baumgartner, of Maryville, was maid of honor. Bridesmaids were Missy Taylor, of Knoxville, Jennifer Shearon, of Nashville, and Nattalie Sexton, of Nashville. Jeri Rice and MY NAME kept the bride's book.
Dave Ryan, of Knoxville, and Jonathan Shearon, of Nashville, were best men. Groomsmen were Roger Monaco, of Chicago, Steve Conger, of Sharpsburg, Ga., and Marc Sexton, of Nashville.
A reception hosted by the parents of the bride was held at Lillie Belle's of Franklin.
After a wedding trip to St. Thomas, St. Maarten, Turks and Caicos, the couple are living in Nashville.
The bride is interactive planning manager with Scripps Network's brand GACTV.com.
The bridegroom is a support specialist with ESC
Ryan-Conger
Sarah Jane Conger, of Louisville, daughter of I.D. and Judy Conger, of Louisville, was united in marriage with Matthew James Ryan, of Brentwood, son of Michael Ryan, of Brentwood, and Jennifer Molyneaux, of Cedar Springs, Mich., at 6 p.m. May 23 at Lillie Belle's of Franklin. The Rev. Tom Gildemeister officiated.
Rebecca Conger, of Sharpsburg, Ga., was matron of honor and Jamie Baumgartner, of Maryville, was maid of honor. Bridesmaids were Missy Taylor, of Knoxville, Jennifer Shearon, of Nashville, and Nattalie Sexton, of Nashville. Jeri Rice and MY NAME kept the bride's book.
Dave Ryan, of Knoxville, and Jonathan Shearon, of Nashville, were best men. Groomsmen were Roger Monaco, of Chicago, Steve Conger, of Sharpsburg, Ga., and Marc Sexton, of Nashville.
A reception hosted by the parents of the bride was held at Lillie Belle's of Franklin.
After a wedding trip to St. Thomas, St. Maarten, Turks and Caicos, the couple are living in Nashville.
The bride is interactive planning manager with Scripps Network's brand GACTV.com.
The bridegroom is a support specialist with ESC
Previous Post 2
More than enough patience
Ok, so as I promised I would elaborate on why I don't want to hear another "brotha" say that "sistas" don't give them a chance.
I have tried to give the guys in Knoxville and the surrounding counties a chance.
Example 1:
My boss decides to fix me up on a date. Sure, I've seen this guy around town, specifically at church, and I wasn't too interested but hey, you can't judge a book by its cover right? Well, yes and no. I should have gone with my first instinct.
He was nice and good looking in a way but he was also older. Yes, he liked to plan events and give me options, but he also said things like "Brother from another mother"... No, your eyes are not deceiving you. You read that right.
And finally, he was educated, but then he neglected to tell me that he had a son! Yes, in the words of one my good friends, 'a person.'
And that was the end of that relatinoship.
Example 2:
"Brother guy" drunkenly tries to hook me up with his brother. After I get an earful of why I should give his brother a chance, I decide to exchange numbers with him.
Things start off great. He even texts later that night to make sure my friends and I get home safely from our outing that evening. I start to think maybe I should really give him a chance.
Weeks pass and nothing from him. It's fine because I'm busy and wasn't that interested anyway.
AND THEN. The test. Although it really wasn't. One of his selling points was that whenever I spent a weekend in Nashville, he would show me around.
Since I'm always in Nashville and never have time to meet friends, I was particularly happy when I did find time this summer. I called to let him know I was in town and it took him two days to get back to me. He offered a few un-sound opportunities to hang out and I found myself going to bed early or working late due to us not meeting up.
And before you start, note that I did call him on Saturday to try to finalize plans and he didn't return my call.
Three weeks later he shows up at a party in Knoxville with a girl whom I assume looks like the girl who was on his phone's wallpaper when we exchanged numbers.
Example 3:
I met two black guys at a volunteer opportunity. They were only in town for a few days and wanted to know what black people do in Knoxvile. Not surprisingly, they didn't believe me when I told them there was nothing to do.
I felt bad and considered showing them a little southern hospitality and exchanged numbers with one guy. He was nice and event though he was older I still thought he might be good for one of my friends.
I'm firm believer that if the guy isn't for me, there might be a friend he's great for.
Again, things started out good. He would send good morning texts and liked talking on the phone. Not a bad catch. Then one night, his ugly side showed. Or shall I say smelled.
And all I can say is I can never understand a guy who will let substances get in between them and their work. I can't do it. I won't do it.
So, there you have it. Three examples of a sista giving a brotha a chance and them not stepping up to the plate.
Editor's note: I've moved to Nashville and based on principle refused to call the second guy in the story. ALTHOUGH I may call him to see if he can help me move-I'll pay of course.
Ok, so as I promised I would elaborate on why I don't want to hear another "brotha" say that "sistas" don't give them a chance.
I have tried to give the guys in Knoxville and the surrounding counties a chance.
Example 1:
My boss decides to fix me up on a date. Sure, I've seen this guy around town, specifically at church, and I wasn't too interested but hey, you can't judge a book by its cover right? Well, yes and no. I should have gone with my first instinct.
He was nice and good looking in a way but he was also older. Yes, he liked to plan events and give me options, but he also said things like "Brother from another mother"... No, your eyes are not deceiving you. You read that right.
And finally, he was educated, but then he neglected to tell me that he had a son! Yes, in the words of one my good friends, 'a person.'
And that was the end of that relatinoship.
Example 2:
"Brother guy" drunkenly tries to hook me up with his brother. After I get an earful of why I should give his brother a chance, I decide to exchange numbers with him.
Things start off great. He even texts later that night to make sure my friends and I get home safely from our outing that evening. I start to think maybe I should really give him a chance.
Weeks pass and nothing from him. It's fine because I'm busy and wasn't that interested anyway.
AND THEN. The test. Although it really wasn't. One of his selling points was that whenever I spent a weekend in Nashville, he would show me around.
Since I'm always in Nashville and never have time to meet friends, I was particularly happy when I did find time this summer. I called to let him know I was in town and it took him two days to get back to me. He offered a few un-sound opportunities to hang out and I found myself going to bed early or working late due to us not meeting up.
And before you start, note that I did call him on Saturday to try to finalize plans and he didn't return my call.
Three weeks later he shows up at a party in Knoxville with a girl whom I assume looks like the girl who was on his phone's wallpaper when we exchanged numbers.
Example 3:
I met two black guys at a volunteer opportunity. They were only in town for a few days and wanted to know what black people do in Knoxvile. Not surprisingly, they didn't believe me when I told them there was nothing to do.
I felt bad and considered showing them a little southern hospitality and exchanged numbers with one guy. He was nice and event though he was older I still thought he might be good for one of my friends.
I'm firm believer that if the guy isn't for me, there might be a friend he's great for.
Again, things started out good. He would send good morning texts and liked talking on the phone. Not a bad catch. Then one night, his ugly side showed. Or shall I say smelled.
And all I can say is I can never understand a guy who will let substances get in between them and their work. I can't do it. I won't do it.
So, there you have it. Three examples of a sista giving a brotha a chance and them not stepping up to the plate.
Editor's note: I've moved to Nashville and based on principle refused to call the second guy in the story. ALTHOUGH I may call him to see if he can help me move-I'll pay of course.
Previous Post 1
Guys want to have their cake and Blue Bell too
Ok, so yeah I was a little hungry when I came up with that expression but lately it has been become very appropriate for the guys I've encountered.
These aren't the average men you think of when you hear about men who cheat on girlfriends or talk to multiple women at a time. No, these men are sweet, caring, have jobs, college degrees and who knows what else that make them the cream of the crop.
It's probably those things that help them realize they are indeed the cream of the crop and therefore, they know they can get any, or in this case, as many, women as they want.
Essentially, they want their cake (their main squeeze, girlfriend, wife, whatver, etc.) and Blue Bell too.
A few months ago a male friend/associate sent me an email containing the four women in every "players" life. There was the wifey, baby girl, side piece and the jump off.
I immediately though back to the relationship I had just gotten out of. I was obviously the wifey...or was I? I mean I had all the makings of the wifey: independent, loving...the one the man always came back to when he was wrong...
But then I thought about the reason we broke up. Or shall I say the person? Could I have thought I was the wifey but instead I was just baby girl? The one he kept on reserve in case the true wifey messed up.
And then I realized that in the case of two men locally I was obviously the side piece. The person they got along with and could see themselves with but never truly acted on it. In one case I KNEW he had an on-again off-again relationship but didn't care about it until they became engaged. That was a line I could not cross. And I didn't, buthe tried to.
And when he got really desperate, he tried to peddle his brother off on me. That match-making incident didn't turn out too well. It's amazing, because if I ever hear another brother say sistas don't give brothas a chance, I'm going off. But I'll go into more detail on that in a later post.
And then there was my favorite. The guy from my hometown who really put a smile on my face and a flutter in my stomach whenever I saw him. When brother guy a got engaged earlier this year, I thought for sure that it was a sign that hometown guy and I would have a chance.
NEGATIVE.
Today after several months of random text message exchanges and a full three hours of talking last week he drops the bomb on me that he has a girlfriend. No, wait. a "girl."
Note to men reading: stop being lazy. Add the word friend to the word girl. She's your girlfriend. If you decide to commit to her, you should commit to calling her your girlfriend.
And to the engaged dudes- call your fiance your fiance. She's no longer your girlfriend, she's YOUR FUTURE WIFE! (yes that was for brother guy).
But back to the story. The guy drops this bomb on me and he is going to her folks' anniversary celebration. That means he's in DEEP. And that he just wanted to have his cake and Blue Bell too-and that expression is extremely appropriate since we have the same hometown.
I'm sick of this. I gotta get out of here. And soon.
Editors Note: I just love the title of this entry. Especially considering I just bought more Blue Bell ice cream this weekend-sorry I just can't get off "the stuff."
Ok, so yeah I was a little hungry when I came up with that expression but lately it has been become very appropriate for the guys I've encountered.
These aren't the average men you think of when you hear about men who cheat on girlfriends or talk to multiple women at a time. No, these men are sweet, caring, have jobs, college degrees and who knows what else that make them the cream of the crop.
It's probably those things that help them realize they are indeed the cream of the crop and therefore, they know they can get any, or in this case, as many, women as they want.
Essentially, they want their cake (their main squeeze, girlfriend, wife, whatver, etc.) and Blue Bell too.
A few months ago a male friend/associate sent me an email containing the four women in every "players" life. There was the wifey, baby girl, side piece and the jump off.
I immediately though back to the relationship I had just gotten out of. I was obviously the wifey...or was I? I mean I had all the makings of the wifey: independent, loving...the one the man always came back to when he was wrong...
But then I thought about the reason we broke up. Or shall I say the person? Could I have thought I was the wifey but instead I was just baby girl? The one he kept on reserve in case the true wifey messed up.
And then I realized that in the case of two men locally I was obviously the side piece. The person they got along with and could see themselves with but never truly acted on it. In one case I KNEW he had an on-again off-again relationship but didn't care about it until they became engaged. That was a line I could not cross. And I didn't, buthe tried to.
And when he got really desperate, he tried to peddle his brother off on me. That match-making incident didn't turn out too well. It's amazing, because if I ever hear another brother say sistas don't give brothas a chance, I'm going off. But I'll go into more detail on that in a later post.
And then there was my favorite. The guy from my hometown who really put a smile on my face and a flutter in my stomach whenever I saw him. When brother guy a got engaged earlier this year, I thought for sure that it was a sign that hometown guy and I would have a chance.
NEGATIVE.
Today after several months of random text message exchanges and a full three hours of talking last week he drops the bomb on me that he has a girlfriend. No, wait. a "girl."
Note to men reading: stop being lazy. Add the word friend to the word girl. She's your girlfriend. If you decide to commit to her, you should commit to calling her your girlfriend.
And to the engaged dudes- call your fiance your fiance. She's no longer your girlfriend, she's YOUR FUTURE WIFE! (yes that was for brother guy).
But back to the story. The guy drops this bomb on me and he is going to her folks' anniversary celebration. That means he's in DEEP. And that he just wanted to have his cake and Blue Bell too-and that expression is extremely appropriate since we have the same hometown.
I'm sick of this. I gotta get out of here. And soon.
Editors Note: I just love the title of this entry. Especially considering I just bought more Blue Bell ice cream this weekend-sorry I just can't get off "the stuff."
Pardon the repetition
But in the interest of entertaining my dedicated readers, I'm bringing back some posts from a previous (and unknown) blog that I think will lighten the mood.
I'm too tired to edit so please forgive any typos.
Happy reading!
I'm too tired to edit so please forgive any typos.
Happy reading!
Thursday
I would be remiss
If I didn't mention the "Sex and The City" movie premiere tomorrow.
I want to go within two hours BUT I'm actually house-sitting/dog-sitting and I can't leave the dog unattended.
So I'll settle for the comedic spoof on The Daily Show until I can watching it tomorrow.
I've hit a little obsession with the movie. Reading every article about it, analyzing the trailers, looking at any footage, story, etc. about it just to find out as much as I can.
It's just ridiculous. And knowing that the movie promotes things I as a single Christiam woman shouldn't support, I think this might be my last encounter with the show. I need to see how it ends (doesn't that sound like any Christian on the edge) and then I'll let it go.
Besides, I'm getting hooked on reruns of "A Different World" anyway. The show is like old wine that gets better with age. Ok, maybe not really but it is fun looking at the show and seeing the fashions and being thankful I don't have any pictures with me wearing clothes that are as embarassing as the characters. Besides, that's the only time I'll turn on BET again.
I want to go within two hours BUT I'm actually house-sitting/dog-sitting and I can't leave the dog unattended.
So I'll settle for the comedic spoof on The Daily Show until I can watching it tomorrow.
I've hit a little obsession with the movie. Reading every article about it, analyzing the trailers, looking at any footage, story, etc. about it just to find out as much as I can.
It's just ridiculous. And knowing that the movie promotes things I as a single Christiam woman shouldn't support, I think this might be my last encounter with the show. I need to see how it ends (doesn't that sound like any Christian on the edge) and then I'll let it go.
Besides, I'm getting hooked on reruns of "A Different World" anyway. The show is like old wine that gets better with age. Ok, maybe not really but it is fun looking at the show and seeing the fashions and being thankful I don't have any pictures with me wearing clothes that are as embarassing as the characters. Besides, that's the only time I'll turn on BET again.
Saturday
I'm really happy for them
Last night my friend, lets call him "Shawty" got engaged. I know because he sent me a text message saying so.
I was expecting it to happen soon, after all I had seen the ring over a month ago so the minute I heard the news, even though my relationship is on hiatus, I was happy for him.
Who can't be happy when one of your favorite people has found the person they want to spend forever with and that person agrees?
Shawty and his new fiancee found each other through family members (on both of their accounts) and they did the long-distance thing for about two years.
I've watched how their relationship has matured, each sacrificing and making the effort to see each other every two months (or more). Meeting each other's families. Throughout the journey they learned a lot about each other, things they loved and things they didn't love, but at this moment, they obviously love each other enough to learn more and spend the rest of their lives together.
Congrats and best wishes to you both... I can't wait to attend the wedding!!
I was expecting it to happen soon, after all I had seen the ring over a month ago so the minute I heard the news, even though my relationship is on hiatus, I was happy for him.
Who can't be happy when one of your favorite people has found the person they want to spend forever with and that person agrees?
Shawty and his new fiancee found each other through family members (on both of their accounts) and they did the long-distance thing for about two years.
I've watched how their relationship has matured, each sacrificing and making the effort to see each other every two months (or more). Meeting each other's families. Throughout the journey they learned a lot about each other, things they loved and things they didn't love, but at this moment, they obviously love each other enough to learn more and spend the rest of their lives together.
Congrats and best wishes to you both... I can't wait to attend the wedding!!
Best Relationship on TV
Last night I discovered a great truth. The best relationship on television is on the MTV show Rob & Big.
Before you laugh look at all the "truths" the pairing of Rob Dydrek and Christopher "Big Black" Boykins represent:
1. Opposites attract- Rob is a skinny, white male who enjoys skateboarding and pranks while Big Black is an double plus-sized black man, whose job is to protect Rob for a living... Rob makes most of his money on merchandising and Big finally got into the merchandising game to help pad his money...
2. They are considerate of each other- WHen Big and another of his plus-size friend could no longer ride in the front of their SUV together because there wasn't enough room, Rob purchased a new, larger truck. And when Big complained that Rob didn't know what it meant to be a big man, Rob walked in his shirt, pants and shoes (literally) for a day by donning a fat suit that put Tyra Banks to shame. After experiencing the stares and the exhaustion that comes with doing menial tasks, Rob showed his appreciation of Big's trials by installing a lush toilet that accomodated the big man better than a regular size toilet.
3. They support each other- Big is your typical cut-and-dry guy who deals with the world as it is presented and does what it takes to fix a problem in a practical matter. Rob, on the other hand, is a dreamer, he's on the edge and wants to try new things that are more often than not outlandish, but Big goes along with every scheme Rob wants to try to fix an easy solution. Blow a lot of money on the lotto, because you've had a dream that you'll win, sure why not. Hire a demonologist because you think a statue is haunted. Go right ahead. In the end, you really just need an exterminator and Big's right there to call.
4. They want nothing but the best for each other- When Rob was having problems finding a girl, Big honestly told him he needed to date a different type of girl. And proceeded to do a dating search for his roommate. Now, Rob rigged the search, and in the end was left with the same disappointment that he had after his other dates, but at least his friend loved him enough to be honest and help him do something about his problem.
5. You can feel the love between them- Whenever you watch the show, you can tell love is present. Their family and friends visit regularly, and Rob's cousin/personal assistant Drama also stays with the duo. Now, how many people do you know visit people with crappy relationships. No one wants to hang around a fighting couple and you never see these two fight. Their adventures are entertaining and you can't wait to see what else they will discover together.
Yes, I know Rob & Big is mostly staged, but it is by far the best relationship that I have seen on television in the past year. I'm sad that the season will end (has ended but I haven't seen the episode yet..) after Big becomes a father, but I enjoyed watching his and Rob's relationship strengthen through the years but as they say, all good things come to an end.
Before you laugh look at all the "truths" the pairing of Rob Dydrek and Christopher "Big Black" Boykins represent:
1. Opposites attract- Rob is a skinny, white male who enjoys skateboarding and pranks while Big Black is an double plus-sized black man, whose job is to protect Rob for a living... Rob makes most of his money on merchandising and Big finally got into the merchandising game to help pad his money...
2. They are considerate of each other- WHen Big and another of his plus-size friend could no longer ride in the front of their SUV together because there wasn't enough room, Rob purchased a new, larger truck. And when Big complained that Rob didn't know what it meant to be a big man, Rob walked in his shirt, pants and shoes (literally) for a day by donning a fat suit that put Tyra Banks to shame. After experiencing the stares and the exhaustion that comes with doing menial tasks, Rob showed his appreciation of Big's trials by installing a lush toilet that accomodated the big man better than a regular size toilet.
3. They support each other- Big is your typical cut-and-dry guy who deals with the world as it is presented and does what it takes to fix a problem in a practical matter. Rob, on the other hand, is a dreamer, he's on the edge and wants to try new things that are more often than not outlandish, but Big goes along with every scheme Rob wants to try to fix an easy solution. Blow a lot of money on the lotto, because you've had a dream that you'll win, sure why not. Hire a demonologist because you think a statue is haunted. Go right ahead. In the end, you really just need an exterminator and Big's right there to call.
4. They want nothing but the best for each other- When Rob was having problems finding a girl, Big honestly told him he needed to date a different type of girl. And proceeded to do a dating search for his roommate. Now, Rob rigged the search, and in the end was left with the same disappointment that he had after his other dates, but at least his friend loved him enough to be honest and help him do something about his problem.
5. You can feel the love between them- Whenever you watch the show, you can tell love is present. Their family and friends visit regularly, and Rob's cousin/personal assistant Drama also stays with the duo. Now, how many people do you know visit people with crappy relationships. No one wants to hang around a fighting couple and you never see these two fight. Their adventures are entertaining and you can't wait to see what else they will discover together.
Yes, I know Rob & Big is mostly staged, but it is by far the best relationship that I have seen on television in the past year. I'm sad that the season will end (has ended but I haven't seen the episode yet..) after Big becomes a father, but I enjoyed watching his and Rob's relationship strengthen through the years but as they say, all good things come to an end.
Friday
The Governor's in town!!!
So, one of my favorite males in the world is in town. Yep, the governor is here.
I was thinking about him yesterday and a text message we exchanged when he landed in Cali a few months ago and how he just wanted the people in front of him to get off the plane and go. And that's exactly how I felt last night so I stated to text-message him.
Then I left work early today to watch Iron Man (no, I'm not some obsessed comic freak--I just wanted to get out of work and see what the fuss was about) and after I walked through the mall and saw where he used to work, I started to call him but decided to finish my shopping/browsing first.
So imagine my delight when i get a text message tonight asking if I was in town b/c he was. Honestly, I've been in a good mood since.
But don't worry, I'm not on the rebound and there's no way I would even go there with him. He's just a good representative of how there are still some great guys out there who don't mix the friend/romantic line and you can just be friends and have a great time and look out for each other no matter what.
All hail the governor!! :-)
I was thinking about him yesterday and a text message we exchanged when he landed in Cali a few months ago and how he just wanted the people in front of him to get off the plane and go. And that's exactly how I felt last night so I stated to text-message him.
Then I left work early today to watch Iron Man (no, I'm not some obsessed comic freak--I just wanted to get out of work and see what the fuss was about) and after I walked through the mall and saw where he used to work, I started to call him but decided to finish my shopping/browsing first.
So imagine my delight when i get a text message tonight asking if I was in town b/c he was. Honestly, I've been in a good mood since.
But don't worry, I'm not on the rebound and there's no way I would even go there with him. He's just a good representative of how there are still some great guys out there who don't mix the friend/romantic line and you can just be friends and have a great time and look out for each other no matter what.
All hail the governor!! :-)
Thursday
An unexpected gift at an unexpected time
So, on one of my favorite study movies, "Finding Forrester," William Forrester tells the young student that the key to a woman's heart is an unexpected gift at an unexpected time.
Well, considering that my sister and I watch many of the same movies and can start a line and the other finish it, the odds that she watched this movie are pretty great.
But little did she know that these words would come to mind when she sent me a Christmas/birthday/Valentine's Day gift as a surprise. I came home to an indescript package on my doorstop and when I opened my eyes started twinkling when they landed on a little blue box. Need I say more?
It was the perfect addition to my growing collection and I can't wait to add another peice one day. Thanks sissy, you will always be in my heart.
Well, considering that my sister and I watch many of the same movies and can start a line and the other finish it, the odds that she watched this movie are pretty great.
But little did she know that these words would come to mind when she sent me a Christmas/birthday/Valentine's Day gift as a surprise. I came home to an indescript package on my doorstop and when I opened my eyes started twinkling when they landed on a little blue box. Need I say more?
It was the perfect addition to my growing collection and I can't wait to add another peice one day. Thanks sissy, you will always be in my heart.
I’m not trying to jinx it but…
Ok, first let me state I don’t believe in jinxes, luck or any of that stuff people say to lessen the power of God. I believe in favor and miracles and of course, BLESSINGS! But you gotta admit, when you read the title, you had to keep reading right?
So the “it” I’m referring to happens to be a wedding. I still have some hope that at one day someone will actually be able to drag me down the aisle and when they do, I observed a few things at my friend’s wedding that I will keep in mind for the day I say I do.
1.Beautiful dress- by now I’ve been to my share of weddings but I hope that on my wedding day someone can say that my dress was the best wedding dress they saw, which is exactly how I felt about the bride on this day.
2.No alcohol- sure, a few of my alchie friends stopped at the corner store to get some spirits before the reception but I celebrated thieer decision to not serve the adult beverages. Knowing the potential consumptions of some friends and family combined, I’d have to think if we did think about serving alcohol it definitely would not be an open bar. Which brings me to…
3.Invites- the girl I was sitting next to at the reception was currently in the process of planning her own wedding for June of this year. I was annoyed by her blunt observations of what she would and wouldn’t do for her wedding (doesn’t she know we are supposed to just keep mental lists and blog later??), although I also wondered if secretly I was also projecting a little jealousy since she was getting married one month after graduating from college. Despite her actions, she posed an intriguing question that I couldn’t shake when she said to her friend (yes, I was eavesdropping shutup!) “I wonder who will come to my wedding?” Of course, I took that to the next level and thought, I wonder who I want to invite to my wedding.
At this particular wedding there was a mix of family and friends from throughout the years. Since I don’t really have friends from high school and two of the people I still talk to will probably be in the wedding, I don’t see myself inviting people from high school. My best friend told me that might hurt some people’s feelings, especially one particular classmate who happened to be at this wedding, but as she said that my mind replayed him doing the Cha Cha slide and trying his best to impress everyone with his dance moves and I knew he wasn’t getting an invite. I mean EVERYONE knows you don’t upstage the bride on her big day.
And finally, despite previous posts, I’m really not a person concerned with things but as we walked through the receiving lines to give our congrats and best wishes to the groom and bride (thank you to Emily on Gilmore Girls-I know who gets what) I noticed I was the only person in my group of college friends who had a gift in my mind. Sure, it was a gift card, but hey, I flew from out-of-town and obviously they appreciated the gesture because I had a thank you card in my mailbox just two weeks after the wedding. SO no one who won’t bring a present will be welcome and just because I’ve shoveled out plenty of cash buying gifts for other people, anyone I’ve ever bought a wedding present for will receive an invite.
4.Wedding Party- I’d really rather not have a lot of people pay to be in a wedding, so if my future husband and I are financially able, I’d love to have only two people each and we pay for the dress, shoes, tux rental, etc. If not, then I’d like to at least buy my bridesmaids a Tiffany necklace each as their gifts (more wedding etiquette).
5.Ceremony- so I can’t decide if I like the whole lighting of the unity candle or not. Plus, I’d want live musicians so they can end the songs and no one has to stand around like a dork until it ends. (I’ll have to ask my sister if she can pull the flute out for old time’s sake and do a solo…) The ceremony must be short and sweet because everyone knows I have a short attention span and if I don’t have a notepad to doodle on I won’t have a clue of what’s going on.
6.Flower girls- without a doubt I’m having two flower girls and they go by the name M&M. That is as long as they aren’t like, 10 or older. They are the only two people I’d let upstage me on my wedding.
7.Wedding showers- I will not be a bridezilla and let anyone plan a shower for me that will be themed or make people spend an unreasonable amount of time in Target searching for a gift that someone can use at a certain hour…(sorry, I digress but you get the point). Wedding showers will only take place for people who can’t make the wedding. Sorry singles, you can suck it back out of me when you get married.
8.Ushers- I’m not sure how I’m going to finagle this but I will not have ushers. That is the suckiest wedding assignment ever. I think I’ll just have the programs next to the guest sign-in book and a sign above the chapel doors (or an information section on the wedding invitations that tells people the left side is for the bride, and the right for the groom as well as to turn your cell phones off, and that we WILL START ON TIME).
So those are just a few of the many things that went through my head at the wedding, but don’t worry, I was able to enjoy the moment and see how God blessed another union.
So the “it” I’m referring to happens to be a wedding. I still have some hope that at one day someone will actually be able to drag me down the aisle and when they do, I observed a few things at my friend’s wedding that I will keep in mind for the day I say I do.
1.Beautiful dress- by now I’ve been to my share of weddings but I hope that on my wedding day someone can say that my dress was the best wedding dress they saw, which is exactly how I felt about the bride on this day.
2.No alcohol- sure, a few of my alchie friends stopped at the corner store to get some spirits before the reception but I celebrated thieer decision to not serve the adult beverages. Knowing the potential consumptions of some friends and family combined, I’d have to think if we did think about serving alcohol it definitely would not be an open bar. Which brings me to…
3.Invites- the girl I was sitting next to at the reception was currently in the process of planning her own wedding for June of this year. I was annoyed by her blunt observations of what she would and wouldn’t do for her wedding (doesn’t she know we are supposed to just keep mental lists and blog later??), although I also wondered if secretly I was also projecting a little jealousy since she was getting married one month after graduating from college. Despite her actions, she posed an intriguing question that I couldn’t shake when she said to her friend (yes, I was eavesdropping shutup!) “I wonder who will come to my wedding?” Of course, I took that to the next level and thought, I wonder who I want to invite to my wedding.
At this particular wedding there was a mix of family and friends from throughout the years. Since I don’t really have friends from high school and two of the people I still talk to will probably be in the wedding, I don’t see myself inviting people from high school. My best friend told me that might hurt some people’s feelings, especially one particular classmate who happened to be at this wedding, but as she said that my mind replayed him doing the Cha Cha slide and trying his best to impress everyone with his dance moves and I knew he wasn’t getting an invite. I mean EVERYONE knows you don’t upstage the bride on her big day.
And finally, despite previous posts, I’m really not a person concerned with things but as we walked through the receiving lines to give our congrats and best wishes to the groom and bride (thank you to Emily on Gilmore Girls-I know who gets what) I noticed I was the only person in my group of college friends who had a gift in my mind. Sure, it was a gift card, but hey, I flew from out-of-town and obviously they appreciated the gesture because I had a thank you card in my mailbox just two weeks after the wedding. SO no one who won’t bring a present will be welcome and just because I’ve shoveled out plenty of cash buying gifts for other people, anyone I’ve ever bought a wedding present for will receive an invite.
4.Wedding Party- I’d really rather not have a lot of people pay to be in a wedding, so if my future husband and I are financially able, I’d love to have only two people each and we pay for the dress, shoes, tux rental, etc. If not, then I’d like to at least buy my bridesmaids a Tiffany necklace each as their gifts (more wedding etiquette).
5.Ceremony- so I can’t decide if I like the whole lighting of the unity candle or not. Plus, I’d want live musicians so they can end the songs and no one has to stand around like a dork until it ends. (I’ll have to ask my sister if she can pull the flute out for old time’s sake and do a solo…) The ceremony must be short and sweet because everyone knows I have a short attention span and if I don’t have a notepad to doodle on I won’t have a clue of what’s going on.
6.Flower girls- without a doubt I’m having two flower girls and they go by the name M&M. That is as long as they aren’t like, 10 or older. They are the only two people I’d let upstage me on my wedding.
7.Wedding showers- I will not be a bridezilla and let anyone plan a shower for me that will be themed or make people spend an unreasonable amount of time in Target searching for a gift that someone can use at a certain hour…(sorry, I digress but you get the point). Wedding showers will only take place for people who can’t make the wedding. Sorry singles, you can suck it back out of me when you get married.
8.Ushers- I’m not sure how I’m going to finagle this but I will not have ushers. That is the suckiest wedding assignment ever. I think I’ll just have the programs next to the guest sign-in book and a sign above the chapel doors (or an information section on the wedding invitations that tells people the left side is for the bride, and the right for the groom as well as to turn your cell phones off, and that we WILL START ON TIME).
So those are just a few of the many things that went through my head at the wedding, but don’t worry, I was able to enjoy the moment and see how God blessed another union.
Tuesday
Top 10 Best Post-Break up songs
Ok, so as I've been working out, I've been listening to my ipod again. And thus this entry was born. Here are my top 10 breakup related songs. Let me know what you think.
10. Stupid Boy- Sarah Buxton
9. Not Gon’ Cry- Mary J. Blige
8. All My Friends Say – Luke Bryan
7. Knock Knock- Monica
6. Cigarettes- The Wreckers
5. Long Gone- Lady Antebellum
4. Since You Been Gone- Kelly Clarkson
3. Fine- Mary J. Blige
2. I’m Gonna Find Me Another You- John Mayer
1. Should Let You Go- Keyshia Cole (Feat. Amina)
10. Stupid Boy- Sarah Buxton
9. Not Gon’ Cry- Mary J. Blige
8. All My Friends Say – Luke Bryan
7. Knock Knock- Monica
6. Cigarettes- The Wreckers
5. Long Gone- Lady Antebellum
4. Since You Been Gone- Kelly Clarkson
3. Fine- Mary J. Blige
2. I’m Gonna Find Me Another You- John Mayer
1. Should Let You Go- Keyshia Cole (Feat. Amina)
Love is Free
If Sheryl Crow's new song "Love is Free" was one of the free iTunes "Single of the Week," then it would be one of those songs that would get the bad reviews.
Anyone who knows me knows that I'm a BIG music buff so I have to surf the radio (all stations) to find the best music. There was a time where I'd watch VH1 but since I don't have a TV at my desk anymore, I have to rely on the radio...
But back to the story:
Since today was Tuesday my original plan for tonight was to go Best Buy (Target, actually but that's another story) and check out the new releases this week, but I didn't get a chance to b/c my co-workers and I decided to celebrate Valentine's Day (a week later).
So, as I came home late I remembered my original plan for the night but decided to keep going past the Target/Best Buy exit. With the promise of "new music from Sheryl Crow" from the DJ, I was hooked to the radio and kept driving. Unfortunately it turned out to be the aforementioned song and thus I was severely disappointed.
If "Love is Free" is any indication as to what love is, I certainly wouldn't want it. Sorry Sheryl, the song sucks. It sucked when you performed on GMA and it sucks now on the radio. Please don't torture us with a video or by selling it to a sponsor so we have to hear it on every commercial break...
I think we're better off singing Sarah B's catchy (read: bubble gum) pop song "Love Song" track. Even if we don't understand the song or all of what she's saying, the pounding piano chords and her strong vocals make you bob your head.
Anyone who knows me knows that I'm a BIG music buff so I have to surf the radio (all stations) to find the best music. There was a time where I'd watch VH1 but since I don't have a TV at my desk anymore, I have to rely on the radio...
But back to the story:
Since today was Tuesday my original plan for tonight was to go Best Buy (Target, actually but that's another story) and check out the new releases this week, but I didn't get a chance to b/c my co-workers and I decided to celebrate Valentine's Day (a week later).
So, as I came home late I remembered my original plan for the night but decided to keep going past the Target/Best Buy exit. With the promise of "new music from Sheryl Crow" from the DJ, I was hooked to the radio and kept driving. Unfortunately it turned out to be the aforementioned song and thus I was severely disappointed.
If "Love is Free" is any indication as to what love is, I certainly wouldn't want it. Sorry Sheryl, the song sucks. It sucked when you performed on GMA and it sucks now on the radio. Please don't torture us with a video or by selling it to a sponsor so we have to hear it on every commercial break...
I think we're better off singing Sarah B's catchy (read: bubble gum) pop song "Love Song" track. Even if we don't understand the song or all of what she's saying, the pounding piano chords and her strong vocals make you bob your head.
Saturday
And so I deleted...
The other night I started thinking about trust. Like at what moment do you know you can trust someone in a relationship, or do you always trust them and then something happens and that trust is broken.
So as I was thinking about that I started thinking about my best friend and how he showed the ultimate trust in me. One day he called asking for a favor-he in turn gave me his email address and password and asked me to log in to open an email and give him some information. And I did-and i immediately logged out. But most importantly, I didn't try to write the password down or memorize.
I got in, got what he needed and got out. Later, another friend remarked what trust or faith he had in me to call me and ask me to do that. And I shrugged it off because I thought that's the way all things should be.
But I was naive and I now know that all relationships do not have that level of trust. I started thinking about today and what would happen should I need that same best friend to retrieve and email for me-what would happen if he decided to check a few things out and I realized my email account was filled with emails from the past that I didn't want to bring into the future.
And so, I deleted. Everything. In my yahoo, to my facebook to IM convos I saved because I thought they were special.
Not that i'm trying to hide anything, but when you decide to move on, there's no reason to let people in your past remain present and potentially ruin your future.
So as I was thinking about that I started thinking about my best friend and how he showed the ultimate trust in me. One day he called asking for a favor-he in turn gave me his email address and password and asked me to log in to open an email and give him some information. And I did-and i immediately logged out. But most importantly, I didn't try to write the password down or memorize.
I got in, got what he needed and got out. Later, another friend remarked what trust or faith he had in me to call me and ask me to do that. And I shrugged it off because I thought that's the way all things should be.
But I was naive and I now know that all relationships do not have that level of trust. I started thinking about today and what would happen should I need that same best friend to retrieve and email for me-what would happen if he decided to check a few things out and I realized my email account was filled with emails from the past that I didn't want to bring into the future.
And so, I deleted. Everything. In my yahoo, to my facebook to IM convos I saved because I thought they were special.
Not that i'm trying to hide anything, but when you decide to move on, there's no reason to let people in your past remain present and potentially ruin your future.
I think I get it
So tonight I was thinking about relationships and why women fall so hard and I think I figured out one of the main reasons.
Society tells us that today's career woman has to do it all-work, have children, take care of those children and of course maintain a marriage.
And so many women do it that those single women left in the world realize they have have to go with the standard.
So, when you finally find that man that you think you could spend the rest of your life with, you want to divert the rest of your energies not being spent on him towards your career because sooner or later the rugrats are going to come and then you will be the last person your think about for 18 years.
Sad, but true.
And so, that's why we fall so hard when we "think" but not "know" we've found the person.
Society tells us that today's career woman has to do it all-work, have children, take care of those children and of course maintain a marriage.
And so many women do it that those single women left in the world realize they have have to go with the standard.
So, when you finally find that man that you think you could spend the rest of your life with, you want to divert the rest of your energies not being spent on him towards your career because sooner or later the rugrats are going to come and then you will be the last person your think about for 18 years.
Sad, but true.
And so, that's why we fall so hard when we "think" but not "know" we've found the person.
Thursday
"Why Me?"
How many times have we been through a bad relationship or just experiences in life in general and thought, "why me?"
That's how I felt regarding my experience with my ex-boyfriends. I didn't understand why I went through all the unnecessary drama and childish behavior until today.
Today I encountered someone going through all the same things I went through with said-ex and I was able to encourage and possibly enlighten her on a few things I had to learn the hard way as well. They included:
1. When a guy starts listing his faults, pay attention. These will probably surface soon and make you want to run which leads to:
2. When those faults start to surface, RUN! And run fast, you can't think that:
3. You think he'll change from being around you and/or you can change him. You can't, and chances are an old girlfriend(s) told him his faults and:
4. The only way he'll change is if he makes an effort to change. And this doesn't happen within one week or within a few days. These things/issues take months. While he's working on his things, take time to work on things you don't like about you.
5. Finally, it's all about control. Don't let anyone play mind games. If they can't return your calls, then you can't return theirs. Anyone who wants to talk to you will make time and you won't feel like you won't feel like a hamster running in that wheel.
if I had never been through those things, I would never have learned those lessons. Which means I would have been destined to fall for someone else with the same behavior and going through a dangerous cycle.
That's how I felt regarding my experience with my ex-boyfriends. I didn't understand why I went through all the unnecessary drama and childish behavior until today.
Today I encountered someone going through all the same things I went through with said-ex and I was able to encourage and possibly enlighten her on a few things I had to learn the hard way as well. They included:
1. When a guy starts listing his faults, pay attention. These will probably surface soon and make you want to run which leads to:
2. When those faults start to surface, RUN! And run fast, you can't think that:
3. You think he'll change from being around you and/or you can change him. You can't, and chances are an old girlfriend(s) told him his faults and:
4. The only way he'll change is if he makes an effort to change. And this doesn't happen within one week or within a few days. These things/issues take months. While he's working on his things, take time to work on things you don't like about you.
5. Finally, it's all about control. Don't let anyone play mind games. If they can't return your calls, then you can't return theirs. Anyone who wants to talk to you will make time and you won't feel like you won't feel like a hamster running in that wheel.
if I had never been through those things, I would never have learned those lessons. Which means I would have been destined to fall for someone else with the same behavior and going through a dangerous cycle.
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