"Why Me?"

How many times have we been through a bad relationship or just experiences in life in general and thought, "why me?"

That's how I felt regarding my experience with my ex-boyfriends. I didn't understand why I went through all the unnecessary drama and childish behavior until today.

Today I encountered someone going through all the same things I went through with said-ex and I was able to encourage and possibly enlighten her on a few things I had to learn the hard way as well. They included:

1. When a guy starts listing his faults, pay attention. These will probably surface soon and make you want to run which leads to:
2. When those faults start to surface, RUN! And run fast, you can't think that:
3. You think he'll change from being around you and/or you can change him. You can't, and chances are an old girlfriend(s) told him his faults and:
4. The only way he'll change is if he makes an effort to change. And this doesn't happen within one week or within a few days. These things/issues take months. While he's working on his things, take time to work on things you don't like about you.
5. Finally, it's all about control. Don't let anyone play mind games. If they can't return your calls, then you can't return theirs. Anyone who wants to talk to you will make time and you won't feel like you won't feel like a hamster running in that wheel.

if I had never been through those things, I would never have learned those lessons. Which means I would have been destined to fall for someone else with the same behavior and going through a dangerous cycle.