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More than enough patience

Ok, so as I promised I would elaborate on why I don't want to hear another "brotha" say that "sistas" don't give them a chance.

I have tried to give the guys in Knoxville and the surrounding counties a chance.

Example 1:

My boss decides to fix me up on a date. Sure, I've seen this guy around town, specifically at church, and I wasn't too interested but hey, you can't judge a book by its cover right? Well, yes and no. I should have gone with my first instinct.

He was nice and good looking in a way but he was also older. Yes, he liked to plan events and give me options, but he also said things like "Brother from another mother"... No, your eyes are not deceiving you. You read that right.

And finally, he was educated, but then he neglected to tell me that he had a son! Yes, in the words of one my good friends, 'a person.'

And that was the end of that relatinoship.

Example 2:

"Brother guy" drunkenly tries to hook me up with his brother. After I get an earful of why I should give his brother a chance, I decide to exchange numbers with him.

Things start off great. He even texts later that night to make sure my friends and I get home safely from our outing that evening. I start to think maybe I should really give him a chance.

Weeks pass and nothing from him. It's fine because I'm busy and wasn't that interested anyway.

AND THEN. The test. Although it really wasn't. One of his selling points was that whenever I spent a weekend in Nashville, he would show me around.

Since I'm always in Nashville and never have time to meet friends, I was particularly happy when I did find time this summer. I called to let him know I was in town and it took him two days to get back to me. He offered a few un-sound opportunities to hang out and I found myself going to bed early or working late due to us not meeting up.

And before you start, note that I did call him on Saturday to try to finalize plans and he didn't return my call.

Three weeks later he shows up at a party in Knoxville with a girl whom I assume looks like the girl who was on his phone's wallpaper when we exchanged numbers.

Example 3:

I met two black guys at a volunteer opportunity. They were only in town for a few days and wanted to know what black people do in Knoxvile. Not surprisingly, they didn't believe me when I told them there was nothing to do.

I felt bad and considered showing them a little southern hospitality and exchanged numbers with one guy. He was nice and event though he was older I still thought he might be good for one of my friends.

I'm firm believer that if the guy isn't for me, there might be a friend he's great for.

Again, things started out good. He would send good morning texts and liked talking on the phone. Not a bad catch. Then one night, his ugly side showed. Or shall I say smelled.

And all I can say is I can never understand a guy who will let substances get in between them and their work. I can't do it. I won't do it.

So, there you have it. Three examples of a sista giving a brotha a chance and them not stepping up to the plate.

Editor's note: I've moved to Nashville and based on principle refused to call the second guy in the story. ALTHOUGH I may call him to see if he can help me move-I'll pay of course.