I'm okay with the idea of not getting married.
See, I really have nothing to lose if I don't. What do I mean-already at my age I will hold the record in my immediate family for being the oldest person to get married.
And once I started college and got involved with my internships and part-time jobs I realized it would be hard for me to sustain a relationship.
One, there was the intimidation factor (that I had no clue about until my brothers B and P clued me in on it) and two, I was so involved with doing whatever it took to get where I wanted, that I didn't have time to hang out and date like normal college students do.
That is if you don't count my having first dibs on playing the winner of NBA2K4 matches happening with the guys down the hall of my dorm when I got in from my internship at the news station.
I distinctly remember having one "date" with a guy after my internship where I was so exhausted and he was sick to where we just sat on the bed in my apartment and talked for a little bit until we both almost fell asleep. EXCITING!
Then, there's the final thing that kills it all. I don't want kids.
Yes, I know I'm "great" with them as everyone seems to think, but really, I don't want any of my own. I like the fact I can send kids home to their parents when they start to act up.
So, I would need a man who can take my long hours at work, driven personality and slim desire to have kids.
Any takers?
One of my very early memories about marriage was hearing that God didn't want us to get married because it would take our focus off pleasing him because instead we would try to please that other person.
When I heard that, I remember thinking, I wanted to serve God with my whole heart and therefore I didn't need to get married.
So, as much as I would like companionship on some days, there are two women I look up to dearly who have advanced where I'd like to in my career and they aren't married.
I haven't asked them yet if they would like to get married, but I know if they can live their life with no regrets so can I.
1 comment:
Who said that about God not wanting us to get married? That is not true. Marriage is one of God's greatest gifts and pleasures. He said in the beginning that it is not good for man to be alone - that's why he created Eve. And there are other scriptures about how husbands and wives should treat each other (husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church, etc.) so I don't believe that to be true. If you really love God and serve Him you can love your husband, honor and obey (yes, obey) him and God will bless you because by doing this, you are honoring His word. Didn't mean to preach but don't want you to believe any misinformation.
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