Commonalities

How do I know my guy is the one for me? One reason is all the things we have in common. A non-exhaustive list includes:

1. Favorite Number- this is the top of the list because last year when I talked to one of my monthly dates I told him I had a favorite number and he proceeded to laugh at me and tell me how utterly ridiculous he thought it was. But when the graduate shared his favorite number, I was awestruck because it was the same as mine.

2. The numbers game- #2 goes hand-in-hand with #1 because its a mental game I play all the time. Whenever I get something with numbers on it, I look to see what relationship it has with my favorite number and as it turns out, he does it too. The other week, he remarked aloud how to derive our favorite number from the number series of our hotel room and I was shocked to silence. I didn't even tell him I do the same thing because it was just too uncanny.

3. Realistic outlook on pet names- other than babe, sweeties, sweetheart, sweets, baby, dear and dearheart, no other pet name will be uttered between the two of us. We have certain nicknames we've coined for each other that we use in front of other people, but we agreed that neither of us will use name for the other that will make the other or anyone who overhears us want to throw up.

4. Shoes- but not in the "fabulous" type of way. He has as much as a fascination with shoes-mostly tennis shoes- as I do. I don't have to feel bad about going to DSW to shop because he goes off to his section for as long as I do. I only feel bad when I give up my DSW rewards to him (but to be fair, I do get his points when he buys shoes using my account number so I shouldn't complain too much).

5. Volunteering- I thought I was busy and took on too many projects until I encountered the graduate. His calendar stays just as busy as mine and I find myself having to tell him the same thing people have told me for years. The good thing is that we both understand the reasons behind our wanting to give back so we support each other but also make sure the other isn't being taken advantage of by the recipients of our kindness.

6. Humor- we both have the same sense of humor and love to clown each other and other people. Going shopping (don't worry not that kind of shopping) or anywhere with him is fun because he people watches and laughs just as much as I do. We call or text each other when we see anything absurd that we know the other will get a kick out of.

These are just a few things I've noticed we have in common which make our relationship great and make me happy to be with him.