Dear readers,
Please forgive me for not answering your post. It read:
Who said that about God not wanting us to get married? That is not true. Marriage is one of God's greatest gifts and pleasures. He said in the beginning that it is not good for man to be alone - that's why he created Eve. And there are other scriptures about how husbands and wives should treat each other (husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church, etc.) so I don't believe that to be true. If you really love God and serve Him you can love your husband, honor and obey (yes, obey) him and God will bless you because by doing this, you are honoring His word. Didn't mean to preach but don't want you to believe any misinformation.
Yes, it is true that God said it is not good for man to be alone, but later in the Bible he also says that He wants us to serve and put Him first in our life and when we get married sometimes our marriage partner takes the place of God being first in our life. He says that we should be single but if we can't let our fleshly desires get us into sin, then we should get married so we can stay within God's word.
Don't believe me or just don't remember that part? Check out 1 Corinthians 7:8-9.
8 Now I say to those who aren't married and to widows - it's better to stay unmarried, just as I am. 9 But if they can't control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It's better to marry than to burn with lust.
And yes, God provides those guidelines for those who get married because he provides all guidelines for all of us for every action of our life. In fact, before verse eight, Paul dishes out advice to all the married people as told to him by God.
Thanks for reading and posting!
Wednesday
My Best Friend's Wedding
Since I speak the truth and only the truth on this blog let's talk about how single women everywhere truly wanted to boycott the writer/director/production company for making My Best Friend's Wedding.
I mean really, how many single women really wanted to see the women who had been there for her best friend over the years take a backseat to a younger, off-key singing ditsy blonde. Any woman who has ambition knows that sometimes you have to choose what's best for your career over having a steady man in your life. And if you are blessed, you will have a man who will understand that he will support you while he does his own thing.
But as we know men, think more about their needs than those who love them so they go off and find someone who doesn't even hold a candle to the person who has been there for them before and expect that person to be happy for them.
In the words of my father, "tough titty said the kitty." Yeah, it's a bit crass, but it is the stone cold truth. There is no way you can expect someone who has had feelings for you and has never gotten over them to be truly happy for them. It just doesn't work that way. At least I've never seen it happen.
Yes, Julia Roberts had a friend to help her get over the sting of seeing Dermot Mulrooney go off with Cameron Diaz, but that was just that night. What happens for the rest of the nights of her life? I can tell you what, they didn't show that because then everyone would have run back to the office to get their money. Reality doesn't work in the world of make-believe. Women want their happily ever afters after all they paid their 8.25 for it, so give it to them.
I mean really, how many single women really wanted to see the women who had been there for her best friend over the years take a backseat to a younger, off-key singing ditsy blonde. Any woman who has ambition knows that sometimes you have to choose what's best for your career over having a steady man in your life. And if you are blessed, you will have a man who will understand that he will support you while he does his own thing.
But as we know men, think more about their needs than those who love them so they go off and find someone who doesn't even hold a candle to the person who has been there for them before and expect that person to be happy for them.
In the words of my father, "tough titty said the kitty." Yeah, it's a bit crass, but it is the stone cold truth. There is no way you can expect someone who has had feelings for you and has never gotten over them to be truly happy for them. It just doesn't work that way. At least I've never seen it happen.
Yes, Julia Roberts had a friend to help her get over the sting of seeing Dermot Mulrooney go off with Cameron Diaz, but that was just that night. What happens for the rest of the nights of her life? I can tell you what, they didn't show that because then everyone would have run back to the office to get their money. Reality doesn't work in the world of make-believe. Women want their happily ever afters after all they paid their 8.25 for it, so give it to them.
Top 10 movies to make your brain go to mush
Ok, so I finally figured out what is wrong with the single women of the world. We think everyone in love is happy because of what we see on TV but mostly in the movies. Don't believe me check out my favorite top 10 movies that have led me astray many a day.
10. Must Love Dogs- think You've Got Mail but with a dating site
9. Breakin' All the Rules- do you love yourself or the other person involved-this movie gives you a test to find out
8. Two Can Play That Game-no one not even the couple involved can keep this true love from happening
7. 10 Things I Hate About You- hey, what I can say, sometimes love is childish and involves bets that work out in a good way
6. Hope Floats- after a bad relationship you can love again. And it's based in Texas, what can I say?
5. She's All That- this was in constant rotation when I was in high school & college
4. Sleepless in Seattle-The first Tom Hanks & Meg Ryan pairing
3. You've Got Mail- a classic love/hate relationship
2. Brown Sugar-Best friends finally get together
1. Love & Basketball- childhood friend turned best friends go through all the trials of college, groupies and finally end up together
10. Must Love Dogs- think You've Got Mail but with a dating site
9. Breakin' All the Rules- do you love yourself or the other person involved-this movie gives you a test to find out
8. Two Can Play That Game-no one not even the couple involved can keep this true love from happening
7. 10 Things I Hate About You- hey, what I can say, sometimes love is childish and involves bets that work out in a good way
6. Hope Floats- after a bad relationship you can love again. And it's based in Texas, what can I say?
5. She's All That- this was in constant rotation when I was in high school & college
4. Sleepless in Seattle-The first Tom Hanks & Meg Ryan pairing
3. You've Got Mail- a classic love/hate relationship
2. Brown Sugar-Best friends finally get together
1. Love & Basketball- childhood friend turned best friends go through all the trials of college, groupies and finally end up together
Intervention for the texters…
For all you men who to rely on text messages to keep on a conversation going it's time for an intervention.
We the single women of today’s society would officially like to tell you we hate text messaging. We can’t stand it. Yes, it can be convenient for when there is an opportune time to hold a conversation BUT we do not want to have an entire conversation through text messages.
See, when we gave you our number, you didn't ask if we had text messages. Chances are you asked for our number to call us. Call NOT text. So, to continually send text after text sometimes after we have picked up the phone and called you instead of texting is just pointless.
I know some of you will never understand this. Some of you will continue to say you use the texting to get the conversation going as you work up your nerve. Now, let's go back to when you asked us for our number...Chances are you had to work up your nerve to ask for it so really if we didn't want to talk to you, we would have given you a fake number. OR if we change our minds we won't pick up the phone.
I remember there was once a time where I ignored text messages when a guy first got my number. I would ignore them because they couldn't determine I didn't have text messages on my phone until I answered. They would either get the message (no pun intended) or stop calling all the time.
Now I have the "randoms" trying to text me and frankly, I don't have the time or the patience to deal with it. Lately I've been ignoring the texts until they call or don't...it really doesn't matter.
So Mr. Text Messagers if you want love, you must call. If you want casual keep going after women who only want time-wasters chances are they aren't considering you as anyone special enough to talk to on the phone either.
We the single women of today’s society would officially like to tell you we hate text messaging. We can’t stand it. Yes, it can be convenient for when there is an opportune time to hold a conversation BUT we do not want to have an entire conversation through text messages.
See, when we gave you our number, you didn't ask if we had text messages. Chances are you asked for our number to call us. Call NOT text. So, to continually send text after text sometimes after we have picked up the phone and called you instead of texting is just pointless.
I know some of you will never understand this. Some of you will continue to say you use the texting to get the conversation going as you work up your nerve. Now, let's go back to when you asked us for our number...Chances are you had to work up your nerve to ask for it so really if we didn't want to talk to you, we would have given you a fake number. OR if we change our minds we won't pick up the phone.
I remember there was once a time where I ignored text messages when a guy first got my number. I would ignore them because they couldn't determine I didn't have text messages on my phone until I answered. They would either get the message (no pun intended) or stop calling all the time.
Now I have the "randoms" trying to text me and frankly, I don't have the time or the patience to deal with it. Lately I've been ignoring the texts until they call or don't...it really doesn't matter.
So Mr. Text Messagers if you want love, you must call. If you want casual keep going after women who only want time-wasters chances are they aren't considering you as anyone special enough to talk to on the phone either.
It’s not how you start…It’s how you finish…
I think that’s how the saying goes, but I could be wrong. And what I'm talking about starting and finishing is the race of love/marriage. Anyway I had to think of that saying today when I read the news of one of my former interns became engaged recently. Don’t get me wrong I was completely happy for her as soon as I read the news this morning because all of the things I’ve said previously in this blog concerning marriage but then there was that one part of me that made me think-dang there goes another person younger than me tying the knot.
I emailed her and told her how proud of her I was because I witnessed first hand this summer how she and her then-boyfriend now fiancé decided to fast from talking to each other so they could be sure they were taking their relationship in the direction God wanted. And now, four months later, they are engaged.
Imagine, if we all were so obedient, how would God bless our relationships. I’ve been pondering on that fact all day and I realized that as I continue to trust, but more importantly, listen to what God is telling me to do, then he is starting to bless me more and more everyday.
After all, I started listening to him and I received a promotion, when I decided I had put up with enough of the random text messages and after-dark phone calls, then I found someone who would commit to calling me during my normal functioning hours. Yep, I’ve seen the change.
And the most important part is that the last time I was faced with a potential relationship fiasco, we took it to God in prayer. I’m so at ease now and in a “que sera sera” mood about it all, that I know God will take care of it all. It’s just up to me to let him do his work. And if he does the work then I’ll most certainly finish the race and just in the time I should.
I emailed her and told her how proud of her I was because I witnessed first hand this summer how she and her then-boyfriend now fiancé decided to fast from talking to each other so they could be sure they were taking their relationship in the direction God wanted. And now, four months later, they are engaged.
Imagine, if we all were so obedient, how would God bless our relationships. I’ve been pondering on that fact all day and I realized that as I continue to trust, but more importantly, listen to what God is telling me to do, then he is starting to bless me more and more everyday.
After all, I started listening to him and I received a promotion, when I decided I had put up with enough of the random text messages and after-dark phone calls, then I found someone who would commit to calling me during my normal functioning hours. Yep, I’ve seen the change.
And the most important part is that the last time I was faced with a potential relationship fiasco, we took it to God in prayer. I’m so at ease now and in a “que sera sera” mood about it all, that I know God will take care of it all. It’s just up to me to let him do his work. And if he does the work then I’ll most certainly finish the race and just in the time I should.
What I really love
Here's my top 10 list of things I love the most (this list excludes family and friends and crushes). Making this list was a lot harder than I thought-or actually the ranking was harder...:
10. Re-reading Pride & Prejudice for the upteenth time
9. Painting
8. Attending NFL games
7. Playing basketball
6. Playing flag football
5. Attending NBA games
4. Playing soccer
3. Early dismissal from work
2. Blue Bell ice cream
1. Staying up all night/staying in bed all day to finish a book
10. Re-reading Pride & Prejudice for the upteenth time
9. Painting
8. Attending NFL games
7. Playing basketball
6. Playing flag football
5. Attending NBA games
4. Playing soccer
3. Early dismissal from work
2. Blue Bell ice cream
1. Staying up all night/staying in bed all day to finish a book
Tuesday
If I had never met...
any of the people I call my friends I don't think I'd survive. I was of course watching SATC tonight and Carrie posed that question to her friends and I began bawling as much as they did on-screen.
Nashville is a big city but thus far it hasn't been overwhelming. If I wanted to hang out more, I'm sure I could but work has been surprisingly busy, so after-hours, I'm just ready to lounge on the couch and do nada.
I haven't met many people beyond those I knew going in but I thank God I still get along with my friends in Tejas and Knoxville so my communication channels are still open.
So many friends have been there for me, more often when I least expected it.
I never understand why God brings certain people into our lives, sometimes it is for us to bless them and other times, it is for them to bless us.
I have to remember that when life and people keep trying to tell me that ONE special person will come into my life and presumably fix all the insecurities and what nots I have this just isn't the case.
If this was the case, there wouldn't be more women on this earth than men-someone after all has to be alone unless you practice polygamy (which I don't) and even if you did, it is humanly impossible to be everywhere at the same time.
My prayer is that everyday I show God's love to everyone he has place in my life (or day) as he has bestowed it upon me. If you see me in violation of this rule, blow your whistle (and not in the Petey Pablo manner) to get me back on track.
Nashville is a big city but thus far it hasn't been overwhelming. If I wanted to hang out more, I'm sure I could but work has been surprisingly busy, so after-hours, I'm just ready to lounge on the couch and do nada.
I haven't met many people beyond those I knew going in but I thank God I still get along with my friends in Tejas and Knoxville so my communication channels are still open.
So many friends have been there for me, more often when I least expected it.
I never understand why God brings certain people into our lives, sometimes it is for us to bless them and other times, it is for them to bless us.
I have to remember that when life and people keep trying to tell me that ONE special person will come into my life and presumably fix all the insecurities and what nots I have this just isn't the case.
If this was the case, there wouldn't be more women on this earth than men-someone after all has to be alone unless you practice polygamy (which I don't) and even if you did, it is humanly impossible to be everywhere at the same time.
My prayer is that everyday I show God's love to everyone he has place in my life (or day) as he has bestowed it upon me. If you see me in violation of this rule, blow your whistle (and not in the Petey Pablo manner) to get me back on track.
Living Life to the fullest
A few years ago I read a book called "Table for One. The Savvy Girl's Guide to Being Single."
I found the book during one of my random trips to the Christian bookstore. What I read has stuck with me to this day.
Recently my best friend was blessed with leave from Iraq to come home for Thanksgiving and to see his niece graduate.
For the first time in three years, I made the journey home for the holiday because he would be home. But it wasn't for the reason everyone thought-yes, I was coming to see him, but for the first time in several years there was no underlying thought that maybe THIS time he would be ready to start something.
It took me eight years to finally get over him, but now that I have, my life has become more about me doing the things I want to do and not waiting on someone with whom I could finally experience those things.
It didn't become more evident to me until this year when I truly begin to make decisions based on what made me happy and going the places I've always wanted to visit.
Finally making it to Tucson, AZ I felt an unwary sense of accomplishment. True, it wasn't the city I thought I'd always like to live in-Phoenix-but it was Arizona and it was beautiful.
Whenever I travel anywhere I think about the John Mayer song "3X5." The lyrics say:
Let me say you should have seen that sunrise
With your own eyes
It brought me back to life
You'll be with me next time
I go outside
No more 3X5s.
Sunday as I drove around Tucson and watched the sun set, I was in the reality of the song. I couldn't take a picture (not only because I was driving) but also because it was something I had to experience for myself.
Funny enough, tonight he asked me if I took any pictures and I told him no.
I found the book during one of my random trips to the Christian bookstore. What I read has stuck with me to this day.
Recently my best friend was blessed with leave from Iraq to come home for Thanksgiving and to see his niece graduate.
For the first time in three years, I made the journey home for the holiday because he would be home. But it wasn't for the reason everyone thought-yes, I was coming to see him, but for the first time in several years there was no underlying thought that maybe THIS time he would be ready to start something.
It took me eight years to finally get over him, but now that I have, my life has become more about me doing the things I want to do and not waiting on someone with whom I could finally experience those things.
It didn't become more evident to me until this year when I truly begin to make decisions based on what made me happy and going the places I've always wanted to visit.
Finally making it to Tucson, AZ I felt an unwary sense of accomplishment. True, it wasn't the city I thought I'd always like to live in-Phoenix-but it was Arizona and it was beautiful.
Whenever I travel anywhere I think about the John Mayer song "3X5." The lyrics say:
Let me say you should have seen that sunrise
With your own eyes
It brought me back to life
You'll be with me next time
I go outside
No more 3X5s.
Sunday as I drove around Tucson and watched the sun set, I was in the reality of the song. I couldn't take a picture (not only because I was driving) but also because it was something I had to experience for myself.
Funny enough, tonight he asked me if I took any pictures and I told him no.
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